February 25, 2008

• The Husband

  I drove about 2 hours West for a birthday party this weekend.  J, a good friend of mine, was throwing a bash for a small group of friends for her birthday, and I was invited.  I hadn't seen J in quite some time, so it was definitely worth the drive. 
  We went to a wonderful restaurant named Poco Piatti . . . and the restaurant lived up to it's name (small plates).  You ordered 2 or 3 'plates' to start with, each with tiny servings of different cultural fare.  Spanish, Greek, Middle Eastern, Italian . . it was quite lovely.  It allowed you to try things you normally wouldn't try . . as you got just a tiny serving of each.  Then, you order 2 or 3 more for round two!  Etc etc.  Quite fun. 

  The whole trip got me to thinking about relationships though.  J has a wonderful husband, T.  They met while we were all in school getting our Masters.  T is quite the intellectual, and is a prof. at a nearby school.  J is a musician (infact, we're all musicians . . must be why we get along)    T is also almost 20 years younger than J.  (T is the man)     All together we had quite a lot of fun, and I enjoyed hanging out with them (and friends) . . being loud and fun and talking about all sorts of subjects.  Listening to the Beatles and Donovan and just having a good ole time. 

  But seeing T and J together just make me all together happy.  THEY are happy.  That is so unusual to see these days.  Infact I've asked J to clone her hubby . . . because frankly I'd like one JUST LIKE HIM.   He cares about her . . and it shows.  He LOVES her . . and it shows.  And it does my heart good to see a true happily married couple.  Sure they have stress in their lives . . the house is having breakage problems, J is having job problems, etc. . . but they still snuggle . . they still hold hands.  He gives her foot rubs and she gives him back rubs.  They TRY for each other . . which is more than I've seen most people in a marriage do in a long time.  And no, they aren't newlyweds. 

  So often everyone in this world is all about ME ME ME ME ME that they don't stop to think about what would actually make a relationship work.  Caring for each other . . taking time for each other (if not just a moment to look up and say "how are you" or "i love you").  It's those little things . .. those every day things . . that mean the most.  Grand gestures are nice . . and are definitely appropriate now and then . . . but its the connection that is the most important.  Mental and physical. 

  I hope, some day, that I meet a man like T.  I don't care if he looks like him  . . just someone that has that type of personality, that type of character and temperament. It's probably quite a lot to ask.  Hence the cloning.  Clone him J.  C.L.O.N.E.

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